#7 You’re evolved to make errors when you think

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There are people who only see half of what's in front of them. If you instructed them to draw a clock, they would only draw numbers on one side of the face. This condition is called hemispatial neglect, and those affected have no possibility of perceiving the things located on their damaged side of the visual space.

Though psychology is full of such weird and cool examples, it was not the fun-facts that made me study it in the first place; it was the way it improved my life.


“Nothing is more dangerous for a new truth than an old misconception.” — Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

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Like happiness, meaning is one of those terms that everyone throws around. And asking, “what does meaning mean?”, highlights the potential for confusion.

Indeed, there’s something about it that seems hard to pinpoint and define. It’s elusive, used in different contexts, and yet paradoxically, most people not only seem to have an idea of what it is, but they want it in their lives.

Ok, but who cares? At face, this isn’t a big deal; you can live a meaningful life without knowing the technicalities. What’s concerning, however, are all the misconceptions that arise because of this. And so, without…


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“When you have found that a certain wind sends you on a wrong course, adjust your sails to the Port of Right.”
Adapted quote from Ella Wheeler Wilcox

I had been interested in writing a book long before I actually wrote one. But my problem was I never succeeded in developing it to a whole. I would typically start to write about a topic, work on it for a couple of weeks, but then get insecure and question myself. “Was this topic for me? Could it actually become a solid book? Was it worth my time?”

Based on the…


3 steps you and yourself can follow

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Your mindset largely depends on how you talk to yourself. And the reason it’s so important is because your inner dialogue is the only conversation you can’t walk away from. What’s more, it affects everything you do. As Marcus Aurelius said:

“The soul becomes dyed with the color of its thoughts.”

Simply, positive self-talk leads to a positive mindset, while negative self-talk leads to a negative mindset. I know how it is.

When I was younger, I used to be a harsh coach. Not when I was coaching the kids in my sports club, but when I was coaching myself…


For when you’ve drifted and want to live better again

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“Stop drifting… if your well-being matters to you, be your own savior while you can.”

This quote by Marcus Aurelius has been on my mind lately. It hit me hard — in the right place, at the right time.

When I first encountered the personal development scene four years ago, I was hooked. I was coming out of a depression, and getting in touch with this field helped me realize I could take control over my life and improve it. And in my view, I feel like I’ve succeeded in that.

But recently, I lost some of my drive for…


#7. Don’t simply read this article, apply it

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I thought we wouldn’t give each other gifts, but here I was holding a Christmas present… I guess she must have snuck it in my bag as I was leaving. As I unwrapped the paper, my face began to light with excitement, and warmth rushed through my core as I realized what it was. I read: ‘Meditations, by Marcus Aurelius.

In the late fall of 2017, two things were set in motion. I started to read, after years of literary absence. And I started to date this girl, after months of single living. Lucky for me, these two things converged.


3 tips on acting better

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“Suit the action to the word, the word to the action.”
— William Shakespeare

Four years ago, after a traumatic event, I entered a period where I wanted to improve my life. I started to read articles, watch videos, and gather information — about psychology, philosophy and personal development in general. I encountered many ideas, but one of the most interesting was a simple one: take action.

It was something both philosophers and entrepreneurs advised, and I kept going over it in my mind. I didn’t dare at first, but then as I was walking one day, I suddenly felt…


Why relaxation is the road to mastery

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I relaxed my breath and lowered my shoulders. Instead of forcing my stride, I now began to relax it. Looking at my watch, I noticed my heart rate go down as well. Paradoxically, I was running faster.

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. Is it really possible to get better but with less effort, strain and worry?

The Problem With Trying

Improving is something most of us desire. And some of us would even like to achieve mastery — if not world-class level, at least to the best of our abilities.

But improvement doesn’t come for free. You know this — perhaps…


Growth is real or rationalized depending on how you respond

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It was like discovering a new world. How had I never experienced this before?

In the spring of 2017, I found myself in the aftermath of a traumatic event. It was intense. I wanted to alleviate the pain, of course, but I just didn’t know how. I was lost. And in short of any answers, I hoped I could just wait it out.

But the days went by, and it didn’t get any better. It actually felt like it got worse. And at one point, it almost felt like I couldn’t take it anymore. Instead of giving in, however, this…


3 psychology-based steps you can take to impact the market

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I felt manic. I had just launched a clothing brand that focused on ‘healthy body, healthy mind’, as the slogan so neatly expressed it.

I was in my early twenties, impatient to make my mark on the world. And I thought, in my frenzy, that this would be a meaningful stride. A few months later, however, I couldn’t do it anymore. It didn’t feel meaningful to me.

Now, three years later, I take a different approach. I’m still into the idea of building something meaningful, but I’m patient. I know I have time.

The Market Doesn’t Care About Your Age. It Cares About the Product.

On the other end from where I…

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