There are people who only see half of what's in front of them. If you instructed them to draw a clock, they would only draw numbers on one side of the face. This condition is called hemispatial neglect, and those affected have no possibility of perceiving the things located on their damaged side of the visual space.
Though psychology is full of such weird and cool examples, it was not the fun-facts that made me study it in the first place; it was the way it improved my life.
“Stop drifting… if your well-being matters to you, be your own savior while you can.”
This quote by Marcus Aurelius has been on my mind lately. It hit me hard — in the right place, at the right time.
When I first encountered the personal development scene four years ago, I was hooked. I was coming out of a depression, and getting in touch with this field helped me realize I could take control over my life and improve it. And in my view, I feel like I’ve succeeded in that.
I thought we wouldn’t give each other gifts, but here I was holding a Christmas present… I guess she must have snuck it in my bag as I was leaving. As I unwrapped the paper, my face began to light with excitement, and warmth rushed through my core as I realized what it was. I read: ‘Meditations, by Marcus Aurelius.’
In the late fall of 2017, two things were set in motion. I started to read, after years of literary absence. And I started to date this girl, after months of single living. Lucky for me, these two things converged.
“Suit the action to the word, the word to the action.”
— William Shakespeare
Four years ago, after a traumatic event, I entered a period where I wanted to improve my life. I started to read articles, watch videos, and gather information — about psychology, philosophy and personal development in general. I encountered many ideas, but one of the most interesting was a simple one: take action.
It was something both philosophers and entrepreneurs advised, and I kept going over it in my mind. I didn’t dare at first, but then as I was walking one day, I suddenly felt…
I relaxed my breath and lowered my shoulders. Instead of forcing my stride, I now began to relax it. Looking at my watch, I noticed my heart rate go down as well. Paradoxically, I was running faster.
I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. Is it really possible to get better but with less effort, strain and worry?
But improvement doesn’t come for free. You know this — perhaps…
It was like discovering a new world. How had I never experienced this before?
In the spring of 2017, I found myself in the aftermath of a traumatic event. It was intense. I wanted to alleviate the pain, of course, but I just didn’t know how. I was lost. And in short of any answers, I hoped I could just wait it out.
But the days went by, and it didn’t get any better. It actually felt like it got worse. And at one point, it almost felt like I couldn’t take it anymore. Instead of giving in, however, this…
I felt manic. I had just launched a clothing brand that focused on ‘healthy body, healthy mind’, as the slogan so neatly expressed it.
I was in my early twenties, impatient to make my mark on the world. And I thought, in my frenzy, that this would be a meaningful stride. A few months later, however, I couldn’t do it anymore. It didn’t feel meaningful to me.
Now, three years later, I take a different approach. I’m still into the idea of building something meaningful, but I’m patient. I know I have time.
On the other end from where I…
“Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.” — Tony Robbins
When my twin brother and I were younger, our dad made each of us a longbow out of wood. They were powerful, and it amazed us how far we could make the arrows fly. At first, we simply enjoyed how far we could shoot them — a test of the bow’s potential. It didn’t take long, however, before we grew tired of that simple game. We wanted something to aim for.
A tree with a smooth trunk, between the branches of another, or a…
Everything was wet. The rain had poured all day, not yielding before every fiber on my body was soaking. We had walked in these conditions for three hours now, crossing plains and a massive ridge. When we finally arrived at our camp, we were completely numb, but we hurried as best we could to pitch our tents.
Hours later, with most of my warmth back, I stepped out of my tent in awe. The clouds, who had kept us company for so long, finally broke away. A blue sky emerged, and the sun hugged my face and warmed what I…
“The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction, not a destination.” — Carl Rogers
Home field. Pressure. I had run a solid race for the first eight checkpoints, and I was fighting for the lead. But somewhere along to the ninth, I lost control. My navigation failed, and when I finally found the checkpoint I had lost over a minute. With four checkpoints left, I never caught up to the lead.
The sport I’m describing is orienteering. It’s a sport where you, by a map, navigate a course with several checkpoints before you…